A Process of Slow Articulation

Letter 43 – A Process of Slow Articulation

Hi, Garrett,

I write these letters, and it is a process of slow articulation. I identify the thoughts and feelings about our relationship that I need to bring to the surface and examine. I identify them and know that I need to look at them, one by one, and say, this is what I know about it. This is what I feel about it. This is what pains me about it.

I try to keep the process of doing this in my heart, and not in my head. If I keep it in my heart, if I can drop down into my heart when I’m addressing you, it is more real, and more healing. This is how I talk to you, and I love you.

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